As my mom used to say to me when I was teenager, “You are who you hang out with.” It wasn’t until the last couple years that I’ve fully grasped what she was trying to say to me. I have learned that the people you surround yourself with either lift you up or bring you down; they motivate you or drain you; they support you or criticize you; they make you laugh or make you cry. It is important to make an effort with those people in your life who are kind, who love you, and who are a positive influence in your life. And, of course, it is just as important that you also try to be kind, loving, and positive so that those people want to be around you as well.
Your mindset/outlook in life is the most important thing in determining your level of happiness; however, your relationships with others can help increase your happiness quotient. Most people don’t realize the impact the type of people you surround yourself with has on your well-being. In Thrive: Finding Happiness the Blue Zone Way, Dan Buettner traveled to places around the world that have the highest happiness quotients in order to find out what they’re doing differently. He traveled to Denmark, Singapore, Mexico, and San Luis Obispo, California and found one of the factors that played a large role in people’s happiness was the amount of close, loving relationships people had with others in their lives. Most lived very close to family (or even with family members) or had many friends nearby (and many had both). This fact hit home for me as I had been living far away from family and friends for the past 2 1/2 years and had just recently moved home to Michigan so that I could be closer to family and friends. I wanted to surround myself with people who loved me, supported me, and believed in me, and I wanted to be able to do the same for them.
The following are a few inspirational quotes on surrounding yourself with the “right” people:
“Associate only with positive, focused people who you can learn from and who will not drain your valuable energy with uninspiring attitudes. By developing relationships with those committed to constant improvement and the pursuit of the best that life has to offer, you will have plenty of company on your path to the top of whatever mountain you seek to climb.” – Robin Sharma
I just want to say “Thank you” so much to all of my family and friends who have supported me and believed in me. I appreciate you all more than I can express in words! Here are some of the inspiring, loving, kind, positive people I am lucky to have in my life:
Have you been making sure that the people you surround yourself with are good, kind, uplifting people? Who do you need to put in a little more effort with? And who is draining the spirit out of your soul that you need to let go of?
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